this is a difficult question. i became disabled 8 yrs ago, this has made quite a difference in my life, i am unable to work, do house work, ect. this april was our 13th marriage anniversary and on oct 1 2011, my husband decided he couldnt deal with it anymore, and walked out. i have never been so devestated, not even when they told me i would be in a wheelchair within 5 yrs, as i am now. he refuses to try or even work on our marriage. he just wants out. i have had to stand up and be both parents to our daughter, who has just turned 14. i have had to hold it together, even on the days when i feel like i cant. i dont feel like im doing a good job, but its getting done. i do need help, and am getting counseling for both myself and my daughter, and during this i have realized i hadnt put as much into my marriage as i could have. i know now that i needed to put more effort into being all i can everyday, not just the important days.