If he won't go to counseling or stop drinking, then he doesn't want to change, it's time to think about separation? That would send a message to your husband that you're not willing to tolerate his behavior and to your children that such behavior is not acceptable. Separation would also give you a chance to think where you want to take your relationship - if your husband decides he wants to work on his relationship, then you can start doing that but you'll have the chance to nsee how serious he is. If he doesn't want to work on your relationship, it's time to think about divorce. It's hard and i9t's difficult but there are lots of women who have transformed their lives after divorce.

Be strong and believe in yourself.

I am so sorry Kimberly about your husband's harsh words that are hurting you and your family.  Does he realize he's doing this?  It can be hard to stop the cycle of yelling in a house.  It almost becomes normal and accepted after a time.  Is it possible he doesn't realize that he's exploding at you over small things?  Is there some underlying resentment on his part or is this a drinking thing? 

The only real suggestion I have is pray, pray, pray.  First Peter 3:1-2 says that it is possible when you do the right thing (submit and respect him) even when he's doing the wrong thing (being verbally abusive) your husband may without a word be won over by your conduct.  This is not a formula or a guarantee, but it is encouraging to know that the Lord can use the wife to win over an unbelieving husband.  Nothing is impossible with God (Luke 1:37).  

Again, I'm so sorry for your pain and pray that your husband's heart will be pierced and that he will change his ways.

Celee  

KimberlyB

Praying for your family.  I think that Celee offered some very wise advice.

Love and prayers for you and yours.