I'm sooo sorry -- how awful for you!  I'm going to have to now look at the sites I don't recognize -- why would people want to waste time and energy being so awful?! I think the anonymity and distance that the web provides makes people do things or say things they normally wouldn't.

I understand about wanting to confront them -- I'm sure that I would.  But I think you know it probably wouldn't do any good -- they might just make fun of you more.

I'm sorry though ....

Thanks Laura.  :)

I was tempted to respond because I wanted to defend myself!

I've decided to leave it alone.

I posted here about it because I was curious to see how others have dealt with similar things. 

The good side of the blogsphere is you meet so many great people that are supportive and are friends across the miles.The dark side is sometimes it reminds me of high school.

I have some great "mommy blogger" friends that I just adore that lead a life very very different than mine. They understand my choice not to have children and support that just like I support them and the choice to raise a family.

Then there are some who just slam me for my choice and call it selfish. It hurts! Yes, it does. But at the end of the day I know there is something inside of them that is either jealous of or fear the choices I make and my ability to put my life into words on my blog and attract a community that understands and identifies with me.

As my mom would say, "They are doing it to get a reaction out of you." (Mom is always right) So I have chosen not to respond. If I find those comments on my blog I delete them, without comment and move ahead.

Heather, there are so many great people out there in the blogsphere so have fun with it and keep blogging and we will keep reading and supporting.

At the end of the day it is my life and my blog.

I'd be tempted to respond too--I think it's human nature to want to defend ourselves.  Still, I think it would be best to let it go.  I know it has to hurt and it totally stinks that you had to deal with that.  I'm sorry!

HeatherAnne,

You're right- there are so many more positive things that come from blogging.  And I know that what I'm doing is with the right intentions, it's just unfortunate when people don't see it.  It's a good learning experience though- it gives me a chance to see things from their perspective & analize myself to see if there's something I need to consider changing.  And whether I change anything or not, it's an opportunity to become stronger.

Patty,

Thank you!  Yeah, I think I feel pretty good about letting it go in the end.  Not letting it go and having it go somewhere negative again would be worse than just letting it go... oh well, hey, their visits to my blog drove my stats up ;) haha  Look on the positive side, right? :)

I have just had some problems not on my blog but on blogfrog. I guess that in a way it is an open forum so what can I expect. But sometimes people will ask me what I think or I post a question and then people will just come back totally insulting me. The best yet? I had this lady (and then about 6 others followed) telling me that I was a murderer and was killing my unborn children because I have an IUD.  What??? I couldn't believe it. I was so upset and I am still thinking about it.  I don't feel that it is that way and she was saying that I wasn;t a "real" christian if I would get an IUD and my religion must be one of those "relaxed new age" churches. Really ruffled my feathers! But in the end, I decided like you to just let it go. 

I know the feeling... something very similar happened to me on this post - (well ... it happened long before, but the last time was on that post)... initially I wanted to get brash and mean right back, but I didn't and luckily enough a lot of great Blog Frog Friends came to my defense!  Hang in there... its just part of blogging.  Someone actually came and told me that I was being talked about elsewhere... it was all b/c I was a mckmama fan.

I don't even know how to check on that...so is ignorance bliss? or should I follow links back to other blogs? What do you think?

i've had this happen to me too...hard to let it go and hard not to respond and defend yourself! you are best to turn the other cheek-good for you! it still hurts and is hard not to think about though...i totally understand!! :( :( wish the blogosphere didn't suck like that sometimes, but it does. thankfully there are way more nice people and nice commenters to make up for the jerks!! :)