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Using a child's REAL name while blogging?

Started by Kerin , author of Her Good Intentions 9/1/2010 12:17:31 PM

What do you think about using a child's real name while blogging? I know a lot of moms are against using their child's real name(s) while blogging or even chatting online. If you are someone who is against using a child's real name, why do you feel that way?

I personally use my munckins real names while blogging. They all have extremely common names anyway, Caleb, Jacob, and Gracie. I guess if I had a child with a really really super unique name I might not do it, but I probably still would. When I first started blogging I thought about giving everyone a nickname but sometimes it just seems so impersonal.

What are your thoughts of it?

You can find my blog at the link below. I didn't blog about this topic but you'll see me using our real names and my header also includes their photos.
http://hergoodintentions.blogspot.com

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Reply by Losing Brownies

9/1/2010 12:57:10 PM

I personally decided not to. My husband didn't want me to use our names. We have a family blog for relatives to see and I post pictures there, but the fact I'm talking about "weird stuff" on this one made my husband nervous.

www.onebrownie.blogspot.com


I've always used real names. On rare occasions I wish I had used aliases from the beginning but that's mostly when some one else expresses a strong objection to using real names and I begin to worry. The rest of the time I figure that anyone who knows us would figure out who I'm talking about anyway! But I don't have little kids. 


Reply by Jennifer

author of Momma Made It Look Easy 9/1/2010 1:14:38 PM

I use nicknames, but I use REAL nicknames, things that I call them every day.  I just felt like when I started blogging that I wanted a little bit of extra protection for them.  I have one with an unusual name, or an unusual spelling (family name) and one with a really common name.


We recently had an identity theft scare.  Not with the kids, but with the hubs.  I decided that we'd only use MY first name and nicknames for everyone else.  Honestly, I have an uncle that I don't trust that makes me even more cautious (as far as I know, he doesn't know the kids real names or where we live now).  We are working for a little bit of breathing room in the budget to get the identity protection that Dave Ramsey helped create (through Zander insurance).  That's just us though!  I know that my first name is unique enough that if I gave more personal details, we could easily be found.


I don't use my children's real names out of respect for them. I chose to blog, not them. I know that anyone can find out our names and who we are if they really want to; I know that there is no such thing as true anonymity on the internet. However, by not identifying our family, it just makes it harder for people to find out who we are--basically, they have to resort to internet stalking/snooping. But, at any rate, I figure that, by not using my kids' names, the kids themselves can choose if they want to tell anyone that I've written about them.


I use my sons real names because I have such a bad memory that if I made something up I'd forget it.  Truly.  I am THAT scatterbrained!


Reply by Monkey's Mama

author of The Adventures of Curly Tot 9/1/2010 7:08:42 PM
I use a nickname for my son. I just do it for privacy reasons. I don't even give out my real name. Simply "Monkey's Mama"

At first I started using their names because it was just for me then it started growing so I have gone back and removed their names from posts.  I say my booga/little man or munkin doodle/princess.  Now I am more cautious of it now because I am getting more followers.


Reply by Kerin

author of Her Good Intentions 9/1/2010 9:22:00 PM

I had forgotten to check back here from replies. I had also posted this topic in another blogfrog community and this was the best answer I got -

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I think you can go too over the top as far as privacy goes, I know I don't feel as connected to blogs where nicknames are used. Like Kerin, I like for it to be personal. Having said that I don't use our last name and I only use the (large) city we live in as location. I also obtain my children & partner's permission before posting their photos online.

As far as Facebook goes, my children's pages are only viewable to friends and I insist that they "friended" me so I have access to them and know what is happening in their worlds.

I think there are far more opportunities for weirdos to know your children's names in everyday life...eg. at the park, the public pool, while out shopping. Parents call their children by name when out in public where anyone can hear and if anyone was inclined it would be easy to follow you/them home from such places without being noticed.

As I see it real life can have far more dangers than responsible online life."

Also like someone here said, I don't link to my Facebook from my blog. Since Facebook has our real full names I just don't do it. I don't use last names and usually you won't even find my child's middle name. Since we all have extremely common names I don't feel there is a safety issue. I do link to my blog from my Facebook because I figure if you are on there you are local or know me somehow anyway. I also have a bad memory (like someone else said) and would totally forget the nicknames. I just think it is so much more personal to use my children's first names. I think when they were older they will be happy to look back and see how much I cared for them and wanted to share their milestones and cutesy things with the world. Once they start getting older of course I won't be blogging about them the way I do now. At that point it will be invading their own privacy and space but for now they are all very young and don't mind. I even read some of the nicer comments to them.


Reply by Laura

author of Ziggy's Blog 9/1/2010 9:37:59 PM

I actually get very personal on my blog.  I blog about dangerous teen trends & some involved my oldest daughter, who is now 20.  I asked her if she would mind if I blogged about her experiences & what we learned so I could help other parents. So I do use real names. Of course, I don't think I have stated in any of my posts where we live besides the South.


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