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Started by Tiffany {SITS Girls} , author of The Secret to Success is Support 10/5/2011 1:00:10 AM

I don't know if women are hard wired to simply agree to take on every pressing matter that comes our way, but it seems like a majority of us struggle to find a way to balance our responsibilities. Is it even possible?

We have kids and homes to care for, jobs to contribute to, finances to manage, marriages to nourish, and oh yeah...those friends we used to see in person.

When I'm feeling overwhelmed and struggling to manage it all these are some of the tricks I use to inspire myself to either do better...or to be okay with what I CAN do:

1. Write

Whether it's blogging about a particular problem or drafting out a to do list, writing relieves me of extra stress I carry and inspires me to tackle my to- do's one item at a time.

2. Turn it Off

The outside world is a huge distraction these days. I know we love our TV and our fancy phones and our internet connections, but the truth is we will survive just fine without them. Turning these items off for a few hours is a great way to give attention to hobbies or tasks you've been ignoring...like I don't know cooking healthy dinners for your family (if you're me!).

3. Retail Therapy

I realize not all women love to shop like I do, but I firmly believe that when we feel good about the way we look there's an extra bounce in our step. When I'm not distracted by physical insecurities I'm able to focus that attention on other things. Confidence is inspiring!

4. Women are amazing

Seriously, have you seen some of the things we've accomplished? Writers, singers, doctors, mothers, cooks...we do it all! I'm constantly inspired by the work accomplished by every woman I meet. We all have such different stories and different purposes. We struggle to balance all of the things that are important to us, but at the same time...we're kind of doing it! As a collective whole women are getting. things. done!

5. Let it go

I came to the conclusion a long time ago that I would never be the woman who could just 'do it all'. I'm not perfect. There will always be dirty laundry in this house. I will always have mornings where I'm hunting to find lost shoes before the school bus pulls up. I realize that the reality is we're human and we're not supposed to do it all or have all the answers. So I don't. I let go of the idea that I'll ever be on top of it all and there's some real peace in that! BBCDenvergroupshot2

So tell me, how do you strive for balance? By replying you will be entered to win one of two prizes! First Prize: $150 to a Local Spa, plus $50 Gift Certificate to the Cerra Boutique. Second Prize: One of Five $100 Gift Certificates to the Cerra Boutique.

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Reply by Kate

author of Songs Kate Sang 10/5/2011 1:14:40 AM
Oh that is so funny.. I just read an article today that said to give up the 'b' word. (balance). It was saying that life is so difficult and we just put something impossible on our plate when we strive for balance... there is a natural tide and some days we will be better at different things...

Reply by Lyssa

author of *born-again crafter* 10/5/2011 1:21:19 AM
I have been dealing with this lately. I have 3 small kids, a working husband who is rarely home, a photography business just taking off, school & preschool, church callings, and trying to keep the house up and do hobbies...phew! It is overwhelming. But for me, #1 is family. So I make a list of priorities. Managing my time is a must so that I don't get stuck in one thing. It's important to make sure to give myself a ilttle breather. So as long as I do the most important things first, I don't feel bad doing things for me later on :)

I kind of just accept that the balance is subjective to each day. I have rheumatoid arthritis so each day is different. Some days I wake up and can tackle the world, other days I'm ruling from my couch. For me it's important to not have so much pressure on myself. My husband is constantly leading me away from the dishes and vacuum, reminding me that it's more important to be rested. Even if you don't have an autoimmune disease, I think that taking the time to be sane--to be rested--is so important.

Reply by Tara

author of taradaramadeit 10/5/2011 1:26:57 AM
I find balance by being unbalanced. It makes me realize that I need to get back to what's important and figure out what needs to go. The first thing to go is the computer. Wait, CLEANING THE HOUSE is the FIRST thing to go. The third thing to go is my sewing. I focus on my boys, my family because THEY are who need me NOW. There is going to come a time when they aren't going to want me around or need me like they do so I cherish and embrace the time and the moments we have together RIGHT now. It all works out. xo Tara www.taradaramadeit.com

Reply by Student Mommy

author of A Working Learning Mommy 10/5/2011 2:46:53 AM
Don't enter me - I'm foreign. I find balance by planning. But if I didn't get up in the morning and have time with God I think it would all tumble like a house of cards in a hurricane. Somehow (and I cannot work it out for the life of me) when I don't get up to pray the day is a mess, and if I do it all goes smoothly. Has to be devine because it's definitely not logical.

Reply by Amanda

10/5/2011 6:23:24 AM
I find balance by looking for balance in the situations that are presented to me. Trying to remain conscious of my actions vs my feelings. Remembering that YES is not always as liberating as the No that gives me total freedom. By not allowing others to over impose on me and my life. Balance to me means good healthy BOUNDARIES. :)

Reply by SusanInTheBoonies

author of Wild Life in the Woods 10/5/2011 7:55:29 AM
While it's important to me in this season of my life to get my kids properly ready to launch, I recognize that if Mommy's tank ain't getting filled up, I'm not going to have one thing to pour into theirs. So I have to stay in touch with my Father in heaven, who loves me so, and draw from His love. And I have to stay deeply connected to my husband, who is my very best friend, and who always has my back, and who will hopefully be around for long after the kids are gone. And I have to do things that recharge my joy meter. I write, I cook, I read, and most importantly, I get together with my girlfriends one morning a week, to share our hearts, laugh, and pray.

I try and balance everything by making a to do list for the week. So I can blance out my days and make sure I have time for things, or (this isn't good advice) I stay up later and go in crazy mode and get things done, but I wake up happier because i got so much accomplished the night before. :)

I try and balance everything by making a to do list for the week. So I can blance out my days and make sure I have time for things, or (this isn't good advice) I stay up later and go in crazy mode and get things done, but I wake up happier because i got so much accomplished the night before. :)

Reply by Megan

author of Sunshine Wonderland 10/5/2011 9:55:35 AM
The best thing I can do for my day is make a list or what I need to do. It helps clear my mind and put me in the present so I can get stuff done and pay attention to my son as well.

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