I am the same way. The only time I call hubby at work is if there is a serious problem.

I can't comment on how I would contact my husband (since I don't have one!) but I can say that if I was married and my husband contacted me 20 times a day at work, we would be having some serious talks about our future together!

S.I.F., Your response is just as it should be.  Very good, and let me add that I would hope if I were texting my husband 20 times a day while he's at work or otherwise out of my sight, that he would be sitting me down to have the same talk you mention. 

I really am glad you brought up the state of a relationship that is happening in.

that sounds like an immature couple to me.

Same here. I only call my husband on his cell phone if there is a real need, and he owns his own business. We communicate well enough to know what is going on during the day. I know when he is grabbing lunch, or if there will be a little break and if I have to call him, I do it during those times. If he needs something he will call me and he always calls on his way home, or if there is a change of plans. Me interupting him all day is not good business, or relationship.

My husband texts me all the time throughout the day while HE is at work. Usually to let me know he loves me, something I need to know for the day ahead or to release some frustration about something that is happening in his day.

He waits for an opportune moment, he does not disrupt his work to do so.

We have been married for almost 10 years and have a very healthy relationship.

wow, twenty times a day seems a bit much even if they are best friends. i would not want to interfere in my honey's work life or put him in a compromising position. we exchange one or two but that's about it.

My situation may be a little bit different from the other people who have commented, but my husband and I do talk to each other quite a bit through out the day.  However, I work from 7am until 4pm and he works from 3pm until 11:30pm.  So we basically never see each other.  He works every other weekend as well.  So he usually calls me or texts me a couple of times when I am at work.  Mostly it is around 10:00AM when he gets up and then we talk over my lunch hour and then a quick "I love you" around 2:45pm when he is going in to work.  We talk again on the phone on his lunch break around 7:00pm.  Most of the time our phone conversations are relatively short.  But this is the way we communicate about what is happening at home that the other one needs to know about.  We have communicated this way for the past 20 years. (Well, not really b/c we didn't have cell phones 20 years ago).   I am happy to say that he just got a job working normal hours Mon-Fri. 8-4:30pm like a normal person and should start in a few weeks.  I think our phone calling habits will change b/c we will be able to see each other at night to discuss all the things we need to and won't have to do it while the other one is at work.   Some of my friends have viewed this as unusual, but when I explain that we don't get the chance to talk to each other at night like most couples do, they have a greater understanding of the unique situation.

          Our situation at our home is very different then most people.We do not text or use cell phones.However we live in a very small town and my hubby is always coming home to pick up supplies from his shop.We talk a few times a day and meet for lunch when we can.texting 20 times a day sounds a bit odd to me.A bit insecure.

My husband and I talk/text several times throughout the day, but I think it's mostly out of boredom.  Both of our jobs entail a lot of sitting around and waiting for work so if it's a slow day, I'll pick up the phone and call my hubby just to say hi and let him know I'm thinking about him.  On busy days we don't talk much at all.  I do always call and let him know that I got to work safe though (I think that's just common courtesy when I drive so far).  I don't think that a lot of phone calls says as much about the health of the relationship as it does the nature of the job.