It has happened to all of us I'm sure. Upon meeting a man that we're interested in, we get some signals.
Some alerts that show this man is NOT RIGHT for us. Or anyone. But because of our desires for a man, intimacy, companionship, passion, and excitement in our lives, we ignore these alerts and dive in.
We proceed into a relationship that will inevitably bring months and years of heartache, stress, pain, wasted energy, and valuable time. Some women may eventually get the sense and end the relationship - but not without scars.
Some, too emotionally attached, co dependent, and fearful of an unknown future being single, stay, committing to a life of unhappiness and sorrow, a life that Jesus DID NOT come for us to have.
This happens to almost all women, but us believing women, living Holy and committed to the Lord, have the STRENGTH of Jesus Christ.
As his GRACE & MERCY poured into our weaknesses, results in the overwhelming STRENGTH of our Almighty, Omnipotent, and Sovereign God within us. (2 Cor. 12:9)
He gives us what we need to break FREE from the shackles of bondage, and be delivered from the relationship WRECKAGE & SIN. Here are 9 signals warning us to SHUT IT DOWN with the "New Guy":
1 - Shut it Down if He's NOT Born Again - The most obvious alert to pay attention to. Jesus says, Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? (2 Cor. 6:14)
I'd like to cover one MAJOR issue with this topic that all holy women are NOT convicted by, and that is we cannot assume upon meeting an unsaved man, that we can change him or convince him to become a born again believer.
We can't even think that our holy living will influence and convict him into Accepting Christ as His Savior. Why? Because we are still associating with darkness until that assumed "moment" happens. The situation can most definitely go the other way.
Darkness can influence us to abandon our holiness, and backslide. God is omniscient. He knows this can happen. So he will not send us a man that has yet to be saved.
When we meet him, he will not only already be saved, but he will already be engrossed in Ministry , committed to the Lord, and fully equipped for marriage.
He will send a man that is of equal or more faith than us so that we are able to submit and look up to his leadership and example. Ladies we need to hold out for that man! We can't settle!
2- Shut it Down If He's Not in Ministry - As just mentioned, the man sent from God will already be committed to the Lord and living holy. That means he will already be deeply engrossed in ministry of some sort.
Ladies, please take this seriously and wholeheartedly. We should have Standards as a Women of God - especially for a husband. And if we haven't set them yet, we are CHEATING ourselves of what God has for us. God is waiting for us to set them so he can make them happen!
If he's born again but not in Ministry of some sort, he's not mature enough in Christ and therefore not ready for marriage. We can't look up to him and follow his example. He doesn't know what it's like to serve the Lord yet! And so we must shut the relationship down.
3 - Shut it Down if He's Not Living Sanctified - Another obvious alert. If the man we meet says he's born again, but still lives according to the customs and manners of this world, he is NOT living sanctified.
If he says he loves God, is saved, sanctified, and filled with the Holy Ghost, but is still clubbing, living recklessly, hanging around ungodly people, walking in the counsel of the ungodly, standing in the way of sinners, and seated in the seat of the scornful (Psalm 1), he's not sanctified! Shut it down SISTER!
Cont'd reading from the Miss Proverbs 31 Ministry Blog:
http://sandraturton.com/2011/10/23/9-signals-warning-you-to-shut-it-down-with-the-new-guy-proverbs-31-single-christian-women-blog-dating/
