Sexual purity is hardly talked about in some Christian circles, but when my boyfriend revealed his addiction to pornography seven years ago, I had to face it head-on.

His habit hurt me. How could he look at other women? Nude ones, for heaven's sake! Here I was saving myself for my future husband, and my Christian boyfriend already didn't find me worth saving his eyes for. At least, that's how it felt. His betrayal couldn't have been more painful or agonizing to me.

I was desperate to find other Christian women who felt the same way I did about pornography's toxic effect on men and on their relationships with their wives or girlfriends, but I didn't find as much support as I really needed.

I was stunned when one of my boyfriend's friends, a Christian woman who was married to a man with a porn addiction, said that his addiction didn't bother her. In fact, she felt guilty for feeling apathetic about it. This was a huge problem for me because my boyfriend latched onto her view and argued that I was too sensitive about his porn-viewing habit. He told me I needed to be okay with it, or else he'd end the relationship.

I know this is hard to talk about openly, but I'm really hoping to find other Christian women out there who are willing to deal with this heavy topic from an honest and Biblical perspective.

Even if you haven't experienced this in your relationship with your boyfriend or husband (prospective or current), I'd like to hear your view on this.

(btw, I've written more about this at a dedicated blog: scornporn.wordpress.com)