You know Suzie Q, I think you provide some very important information to people out there with your posts, and you add your humour to it, to make a very serious matter, lighter. I think blogs like yours are not only needed but well received.

As for moron cures, a good support system, and I would still be with my moron if it weren't for a good counsellor.

hmm..as in curing the moron of his disease or curing yourself from a bad case of moron mange? there's no cure for moron's disease...that's terminal. curing myself of moron mange? that'd be divorce :D and moving. and changing my name?

Unfortunately, sometimes that moron disease is terminal....but I am an optimist and do believe with a lot of work and willingness and above all education, it is possible. Unfortunately most abusers do not want to change or are unwilling to do the work needed to change.

As for curing yourself of morons, well, unfortunately you sometimes have to to what you have described, Denyse, to survive. 

Denyse, if you have a really bad case of moron mange, then I hope you are getting help - although i know that I did not have very much when I went through my separation and de-licing!!!!

But there is help and support out there, women's shelters, and online support if you happen to live in a small town (like I did) that did not offer much. Education truly is key.

No matter what it is that you need to go forward with support and love, I hope you find it, and remeber we are here for you if you need us. Asking for help is actually a skill, that morons like to abliterate!!!

I say the only moron cure that worked for me is to cut the moron off.  It's like an infected limb...what do they do if they can't save the arm?  Cut that sucker off.  Sure it hurts like hell, and it's not the easiest thing to do, but it's the only way.

Sure, later in life, you still have those feelings that the moron is still there.  I think they call that a phantom limb or something when they amputate.  It affects your later relationships, but you learn to love again without the moron.  It just takes time. 

Love the analogy Alaina!!! And how very true!!!!

Amputation, ha! IF only it were that easy when there are kids involved :)

But you do have to draw boundaries, and be firm!

ha, unfortunatley that's true.  Luckily for me, I didn't have a kiddo in the situation, but my sister does and she still has to deal with her moron but not on a regular basis.  Unfortunately, he's a pretty absentee father, which can be a good and a bad thing. 

hahahahah! This is a fun discussion! lol I thought I was the only one who used colorful analogies. I really think I'm going to love this group!

No worries though. honestly I'm ok! My moron isn't physically abusive - just emotionally & mentally abusive. The funny thing is that he hasn't managed to turn me into the crazy he'd like me to be. In fact, I think it pisses him off that after 10 years I'm still standing, still sane and can do most things better than him. LOL! Honestly - I feel sorry for the poor slob. While it's really sucked to be with him, it sucks more to BE him. *shrug*

I have no problem cutting him loose (he hasn't been home for a few days and it's been soooooooooooooo nice!!!) and the only difficulty ahead for me is trying to figure out how I'm going to financially manage with 3 little kids, no family, no job and a tough economy. But God/the Universe/my higher power/whatever has always taken care of me and I'm sure this is no exception.

Well I am happy for your sister, Alaina :) For 1. getting out of the situation - that takes a lot of courage and strength, and 2. that he at least is that!!!

Denyse, don't underestimate the emotional abuse, it often is a silent killer!