Oh What To Do....When to Follow Your Husband's Wishes and When to Stand Firm

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Oh What To Do....When to Follow Your Husband's Wishes and When to Stand Firm

_{Started by Lori , author of Lori's Reflections | Come, Grow and Go} _{4/19/2010 7:38:45 PM}

I am in a predicament, that may not even evolve into anything. Recently I had an interview for a job my husband is very excited for me to have. I had promised my husband I would apply for this job before I even read exactly what it was. Long story short he got the information from a friend, he called me excited, and I said "Ok I will throw my hat in."

Well I had an interview, it went well, I do know I am the least experienced from the others they will be or have interviewed. And I don't want the job. I am praying I don't have the decision to accept the job or not. After much praying and thinking about it, I have decided I really don't want it.

The good news is another position opened up in the same department, that is more me. One I am very excited about. I applied for it today and I hope I am called for an interview.

What I fear most? Is getting the first job and deciding not to take it. I will upset my husband greatly, I will upset my in-laws who think this is the best thing that could happen to me.

Unfortunately I don't feel the same way.

Suggestions?? (Yes I have tried telling my husband how I feel, he says I am chicken and don't believe in myself enough. Basically suck it up and put your big girl panties on).

I have been so stressed and praying this will not be a decision I have to make.

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Reply by Iris

_{author of Grace Alone…} _{4/19/2010 7:47:36 PM}

Oh, Lori. I will be praying for you and the situation. It is so hard to make the right decision, but if this first job is really not for you, than you won't put your full heart in either.
I pray that God will directed everything job-wise that is going on now. I pray that the second job that you are truly interested in will be available to you.

Love & peace,
Iris

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Reply by Sweetie!

_{author of Growing Into Lovely} _{4/19/2010 7:47:39 PM}

Lori,

It is appropriate if offered the first job to let HR know that you have applied for the second position that you feel you would be more suited for. Les had this exact scenario and they offered him his choice. I will join you in praying God opens the door HE has for you!

hugs

Sweetie

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Reply by Trench Mommy

_{author of From The Trenches Of Motherhood} _{4/19/2010 7:51:43 PM}

Wow, this is a tough one. I would do everything to see if you can get the 2nd job without having to turn down the 1st job - if you get the offer in the first place.

If you have the chance to get the one you like, and your husband is okay with it, great! If he isn't see if you can work it out. If you only get the option of job number 1 maybe it would be worth a try if for nothing more to honor your husband.

Have you tried to ask you husband about why he wants job #1 so badly for you?

Something else to think about is do you really need the job? If so, maybe you need to take the job even if you don't like it. There are times in our life when we have to do what we really don't want to do for a time.

Remember that God doesn't allow anything in our lives that He hasn't approved. He is wanting to use this situation to bring glory to His name and to help you become more like His Son. So look at this as an opportunity rather than a situation and see how your perspective can make things better.

Keep in touch about what happens!

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Reply by Angie

_{author of THE KNIGHTLY NEWS} _{4/19/2010 8:13:22 PM}

Lori girl! Yes, you are right...it is a tough decision. I cannot advise you--but I can pray. I will tell you something that I decided on just this past January. That God had called me OUT Of my job. And no. My honey was not excited about that. But I fasted (5 days) and prayed and sought God for 3 months. I believe with all my heart that I heard from God and I left with the sweetest peace flooding my soul I've ever in my life experienced!

I also realized something about us, Jeff may not hear exactly what I hear--but I had to be willing to be obedient to God even if I was the only one that heard. Jeff did believe I heard from the LORD, but Jeff really saw things more in dollars and cents rather than a call on my heart for something else that God is doing in my life.

I believe that God has a purpose and divine plan for all of our lives and I seek to follow that path and fall into His design for me---I will be praying for you dear one! I think the fact that you are "excited" about the other one speaks volumes--and it's really not about being "chicken"---more about what you would enjoy.

When the right decision is made---you will feel His sweet peace! I believe it! You have my number--call me if you need to!~

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Reply by Holly Renee

_{author of Love Imagine Create} _{4/19/2010 10:05:54 PM}

I will advise you to follow your heart. If your husband or in-laws do not understand it after you have explained why you don't want the job, perhaps they don't have your best interests in mind. I know it is hard to stand up for yourself at times but I just wouldn't waste a day of my life doing something I do not like. Either way, I hope this all works out for you!

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Reply by Debbie

_{author of Heart Choices} _{4/19/2010 11:03:44 PM}

Lori, this is a hard one. I've had a few struggles in the past with a difference of opinion with my husband. I tried to explain my reasons but he had more. In the end, you are the one who will have to do the job and life at home will not be pleasant if you're really unhappy.

I will be praying that it will be so obvious to both you and your husband as to which job is suited the best for you. And I'll pray that you'll be called for an interview with the other job you think is better. In the end, it's really where the Lord would have you to be Lori.

When Lori's happy ...your family will be happy too.

I didn't realize how the Blog Frog community could be used. I like this. Thanks for including me Lori.

Love ya,

Debbie

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Reply by Lori

_{author of Lori's Reflections | Come, Grow and Go} _{4/20/2010 5:57:08 AM}

Thank you everyone. I will let you know what happens. Each one of your advice means a lot to this anxious soul. Like I said I pray this will turn out to be nothing.

I will let you know.

Lori

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