"What do you do when you look around at your church, your peer group, other christian women, and they resemble the WORLD far more than they do the body of Christ!"  I have to admit, my 1st thought is something along the lines of 'find another church'... but I do know what you mean, I think...

"At what point does it become the responsibility of SOMEONE (Pastors, Elders, Older Wiser Women) to challenge our resemblance to the world??"- I don't know if there is a concrete answer to that, but I think whatever the answer is, it has to start with us, ourselves, setting the best example we can... hopefully such a wonderful and godly example that our peers would look to us and actually want to be more like us, not feel pressured to be, but actually desire to be... but if we look just like the world, like them, then we have no place speaking into their hearts and lives about their apparent resemblance to the world...

People do need to be challenged to do right, in my opinion.  It's just so easy to take the easy road, and the easy road is far less "right", if you know what I mean.  But that challenge doesn't have to come in the form of a confrontation, except for maybe when it comes to blatant rebellious sin, but rather, again it starts with us and our own hearts and lives- if we are really doing right, and really living a life that is "set apart", enough so that people see a difference when they see us, that difference will challenge them, perhaps more powerfully and effectively than our words ever would...

Just my 2 cents' worth...

Oh my, I think that's a challege for sure.  I remember when I was in nursing school,  I met a  fellow nursing student who had worked in a "gentlemen's club" atmosphere (I'm trying to say that tactfully).  She had actually asked Jesus into her heart and had begun to attend a church not far from her home.  She was in the earliest, earliest stages of her walk.  She shared with me that one day several ladies from her church visited unannounced.  She had been working out at her home and her workout clothing was tight and revealing.  The women chastised her for her dress and she was so hurt and angered that she left that church. 

I think we need to extend grace first, and we should work to build relationship with those in the body with whom we have little in common.  As sisters in Christ, I think we might be surprised at the unique fellowship that can come out of it.  Pastors should, imho, definitely be reminding us of our need to be in the world but not of it.  However, we, as sisters in Christ, can mentor to those who need greater growth *if* we build true fellowship with them.  In due time, we may need to be more intentional in our guiding conversations, but I doubt we would have much positive impact on those who seem bound by worldliness if we do not first establish genuine relationship with our fellow sisters.  Thanks for the thought provoking question.

i have found that so much can be taught and caught in the context of a relationship.  it only makes sense!  look at all the "one another" passages in the NT.  those are not for lone rangers, but for people in relationship with each other.

 also, the forgiveness passages in matthew.  they are also in the context of relationship.  we start by if possible, overlooking the sin against us.  if it is possible to forgive and overlook the offense, that is the end of it.  

if we are unable to let it go, then we must talk with the person, but, there is a way we are to talk with them!  if you have never read any of the http://Peacemakerministries.org materials, you will find them very helpful.  they have a number of materials that are helpful.

 who among us has received a decent apology? it just has NOT been my experience.  when people apologize, they rarely seem to want to take responsibility for the hurt they have caused.  

way that makes you feel that if you were hurt, you're being neurotic.  so interesting!  they can walk you thro' the process that you must deal with God b/f you ever have to deal the individual(s) involved.  take a look at their website for further help.  _possibly cont.)