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Started by Shannon , author of Tales of our Baby Gator, Gillian Grace 4/22/2010 5:18:01 PM
Just curious, if it's not too personal, how long after your first child did you and your spouse know it was time to try for baby #2? Did you ever have doubts as to whether or not you want more children? Everyone keeps telling me that because we have such a happy and content baby (that also happens to be a great sleeper) that our next child will be absolute hell on wheels! It bugs me to no end and I don't put a lot of stock into their comments but wander if what they're saying is the slightest bit valid. What are your thoughts?

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author of My Little Life 4/23/2010 12:23:18 AM
I say, tell 'em to shut the heck up!!
 
We had four extremely mellow, easy going babes, one right after the other...and then came #5...our "hell on wheels"!!
 
Although, we never actually made a decision to have another...it always just happened. 
 
I say do what feels right for you. The age gaps between our kiddos is 5 1/2 years, 26 months, 21 months, and 2 1/2 years. 
 
I've gotta say the 2 1/2 years was the easiest transition! Course, it was #4 to #5, so maybe we were just old pros at it by that point?!
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author of Crayon Wrangler Coloring Me Happy And Outside The Lines | Learning to color myse 4/23/2010 5:00:28 AM
My three girls are all 2 years apart.

As far as when it felt right? If it is something that you and your husband agree on, then its right. "Others" aren't helping you create or raise your family so they really don't get any input.

I have had 3 in a room that are great sleepers and generally mellow kids. I don't think if you get an easy one that you are doomed with the next. The transition from 1 to 2 was the hardest, but after learning to balance more than one child's needs at a time....no worries.
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author of Troop Petrie 4/23/2010 7:07:45 AM

We have never used birth control. I wanted my children super close. it just has not happened. i have a 13, 9, 7 and 4 year old

 

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author of From 3 to 5 4/23/2010 9:40:29 AM

I'm sorry that people are saying such things about a child that hasn't even been conceived.  I'm with Mama M. "shut the heck up"

For us I always wanted 3 children and my husband 4, so we were in agreement on #2. We started trying after my son turned one. Mostly because of insurance or we would have started earlier. We were blessed with twins, which was harder for a lot longer than one. My girls are now 17 months and we are feverish again. :o). We once again need to wait because of insurance changes.

I would say if you have doubts to wait. There are plenty of children that are only children or further apart in age. My brother and I are five years apart. My mom said she would have liked to have had us closer but wasn't sure she could handle it. Now she tells me all the time she is amazed what I do with three little ones.

By the way, I LOVE your daughter's name.

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author of The Happy Housewife 4/23/2010 2:10:04 PM
I agree, tell them to take a hike. How do they know what your child is going to be like! 
We had a super good 1st baby and a very sick second baby, then we had 4 super healthy kids, and our last was a preemie, so you never know. 
My kids are spaced (by God, not us) 25 months, 4 years, 21 months, 23 months, 2 years, 3 years.... 
I think the transition from one to two was the hardest, but only because he was so sick. After baby #4 it got easier. :)
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author of Mudbloggin' 4/23/2010 2:22:57 PM
That is exactly what happened with my second.  I would never tell someone that THEIR second child would be like mine.  How is there any way to know that?  Mine are 18 months apart.  After having the second, I was convinced that I wouldn't have anymore.  Until now.  He is now 31/2 years old.  Hubby and I have talked about it but, realize it's almost like starting all over again.  Good Luck!!!!Children are awesome and such a blessing!!!
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author of My Little Life 4/23/2010 2:25:57 PM
Ha! Toni...I agree! Bringing home #5 was a cinch!
 
Piece of cake!
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author of The Joys Jouney 4/23/2010 2:46:54 PM
My boys are 12 1/2 months apart and #1 was a great baby. He slept through the night at 2 weeks and was a very happy baby all the time. He cried very little. I had some people tell me that our next would be a terror and that was not the case. We did not plan to get pregnant but couldn't have been more excited. Our second was just as happy and a good sleeper too. No one knows how your baby is going to be. I say if you are ready for another go for it!
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author of Tales of our Baby Gator, Gillian Grace 4/24/2010 11:20:07 AM
Thanks y'all! Your thoughts have been such a comfort. I am totally in agreement...I'm going to tell all those Negative Nellys to take a hike!

I think when the time is right for us, we'll just know!

Have a wonderful weekend!
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author of Modern Style Mama 5/24/2010 8:37:29 PM

Im with everyone else.

I hate when we are so darn noisy about how many children you should or shouldn't have and why.  It is so frustrating and annoying.   What the heck do they care anyway.  It has happened to me and I feel like saying "Well really its none or your freaking business!"  But Im to nice/chicken to do so.

You dont know what type of baby you will have.  That's just life.  You will know if and when the time is right. 

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