My mom never really had time to teach me how to cook while I was young, and then I never had any time to try to learn, once I started working while also going to school. I wish I had, cause now I can only do it if it has instructions on the box! I I tried learning when I moved in with my boyfriend, but both of us will admit that HE's the cook between the two of us! Not only does he love doing it, but his stuff tastes great compared to mine! Then we decided to back off each other a bit and I moved out (sounds strange, but it's a long story I may post about later), and now I rarely try to cook at all for financial and too-much-leftover reasons.

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katlupe said ...
I grew up without pressure for anything. I think it carries over to my life. I was always a good cook, but it seems I just learned at home while I was growing up. 

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That's really awesome to hear! I currently have a boyfriend of over 4 years, and he seems to love the "boy-ish" stuff I can do. I'll do all sorts of lady-like dressing up for when we go out, and he has a blast knocking people off their chairs telling them about me! He enjoys being able to have help in the garage and doing all sorts of things together rather than just having me watch and I think it's fun! A couple of years ago, I bought an old 4Runner with a blown up engine. I bought it because I had an engine from another Toyota I had (before I rolled it down the highway, :( RIP), and it was our project to put together and let the 4Runner live again. He's always pointing out to people that "I kept trying to do stuff, like this or that and she would keep correcting me AND being right about it!" It is kind of fun to be shown off like that  :)   

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katlupe said ...
I have been thinking about your reply some more. Now my brother has always been married to or dated women like you. He likes a woman who can do those things and that is what attracts him. Looks don't even matter. He loves to take a women out hunting with him, using flint lock guns, wearing buckskins that he made for her. Then later she can help him pull a motor out of this truck. He don't even care if she can cook. I think he has always been pretty happy with his choices. 

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Fit in ~ You are you and you don't want to fit in with 'girly girls' ~ It is not you ~ I am like you ~ try to be independent and self sufficient and like 'comfort' clothes and shoes ~ my cords and turtleneck are getting worn out ~ LOL ~ Be true to you ~ forget 'what 'they' want, say or do ^_^

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Barbara said ...
You do have a very good point, but I also agree with this on the woman's side as well. I have not grown up as a stereotypical "girly" type, and anybody I know can tell you this. I don't have nails, don't do my hair often at all, will not wear heels, a dress, or even a skirt unless I have to. Instead, I don't mind getting dirty and doing a "man's" work. I work on my own car, I don't mind getting dirty, I lift heavy things, and I am a big fan of wearing t-shirts, jeans, hoodies, and gym shoes or boots. I love digging around junk yards and I collect and scrap metal. This definitely brought on a lot of comments and remarks from others, especially my own parents, who wanted me to be more lady-like. A lot of people think there is something definitely wrong with me, but after they get to know me they support what I like to do and how I do it. But I still feel as though I'm looked down upon because I didn't live up to their expectations and am not like a woman "should" be. Many women are lady-like, so this isn't a usual "inconvenience" for people, but for those of us who do live this way, it can be a problem because we don't "fit in."

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I never responded to this question because I think each gender has unique problems and each gender has strengths and weaknesses ~ 

Society is still expecting 'women to be women and men to be men and then complain when they are ~ I really think each individual has their strengths and weaknesses.

Biology? No fun to have the menses every month, no fun not being able to pee outdoors conveniently if needed ~ Men age better it seems ~ some thoughts on the deal ^_^

Thats just too true and too funny!!!! HAHAHAHHA

Carri

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Barbara said ...
Ugh, the way they have to rearrange themselves all the time! It must suck to be careful as you sit or squat!

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I don't think men have the weight of the world as providers on their shoulders like back in the day... I think that today its shared pretty equally ... if not even more so on women who are single parents raising the family especially without child support.. I haven't know many good men in my life.  My Dad is a good man but he has always been a chauvinist...and had a temper.. things were always his way or no way... he's mellowed with age and Alzheimers... Man I married when I was young cheated. and then I just about got my kids raised and met an awesome man a good man..14 yrs my senior...  But I personally can count on one hand the number of truly good men I have known in my life.. I'm not trying to man bash... just my experience...

Carri

I guess I never said the best thing about a man... the best thing would be when you have a good man and he makes you feel safe and protected.. like you can put your guard down and not be the one doing all the protecting for a change.... I like a man with quiet strength....

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katlupe said ...
Okay, Red started the topic about What Is The Best Thing and Worst Thing About Being A Woman.

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That's really sweet of your boyfriend!

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Barbara said ...
That's really awesome to hear! I currently have a boyfriend of over 4 years, and he seems to love the "boy-ish" stuff I can do. I'll do all sorts of lady-like dressing up for when we go out, and he has a blast knocking people off their chairs telling them about me! He enjoys being able to have help in the garage and doing all sorts of things together rather than just having me watch and I think it's fun! A couple of years ago, I bought an old 4Runner with a blown up engine. I bought it because I had an engine from another Toyota I had (before I rolled it down the highway, :( RIP), and it was our project to put together and let the 4Runner live again. He's always pointing out to people that "I kept trying to do stuff, like this or that and she would keep correcting me AND being right about it!" It is kind of fun to be shown off like that  :)   

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"when you have a good man and he makes you feel safe and protected.. like you can put your guard down and not be the one doing all the protecting for a change"

I've never experienced that kind of relationship with a man.