Alyssa's Dad and I used to work great at building things together. I designed it - dimensions, etc. - then he would do all the cutting, etc. while I was his assistant to hold this or fetch that....I loved it!!! That's one part of him that was really cool. I always admired his handy skills.

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katlupe said ...
Like building things would be nice, but I never was good at it and always had to ask a man for help.

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I grew up without pressure for anything. I think it carries over to my life. I was always a good cook, but it seems I just learned at home while I was growing up. 

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RedheadRiter said ...
However, I think women have the same pressure, but with different things.

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I have been thinking about your reply some more. Now my brother has always been married to or dated women like you. He likes a woman who can do those things and that is what attracts him. Looks don't even matter. He loves to take a women out hunting with him, using flint lock guns, wearing buckskins that he made for her. Then later she can help him pull a motor out of this truck. He don't even care if she can cook. I think he has always been pretty happy with his choices. 

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Barbara said ...
You do have a very good point, but I also agree with this on the woman's side as well. I have not grown up as a stereotypical "girly" type, and anybody I know can tell you this. I don't have nails, don't do my hair often at all, will not wear heels, a dress, or even a skirt unless I have to. Instead, I don't mind getting dirty and doing a "man's" work. I work on my own car, I don't mind getting dirty, I lift heavy things, and I am a big fan of wearing t-shirts, jeans, hoodies, and gym shoes or boots. I love digging around junk yards and I collect and scrap metal. This definitely brought on a lot of comments and remarks from others, especially my own parents, who wanted me to be more lady-like. A lot of people think there is something definitely wrong with me, but after they get to know me they support what I like to do and how I do it. But I still feel as though I'm looked down upon because I didn't live up to their expectations and am not like a woman "should" be. Many women are lady-like, so this isn't a usual "inconvenience" for people, but for those of us who do live this way, it can be a problem because we don't "fit in."

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katlupe said ...
I grew up without pressure for anything. I think it carries over to my life. I was always a good cook, but it seems I just learned at home while I was growing up. 

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I learned to cook after I moved away from home. Mom was always busy trying to get it done and we didn't really have cooking lessons. As I got older, we did spend more time talking about it. When I got married, I went crazy in the kitchen and I discovered that I totally love cooking.

That's sweet!

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katlupe said ...
I have been thinking about your reply some more. Now my brother has always been married to or dated women like you. He likes a woman who can do those things and that is what attracts him. Looks don't even matter. He loves to take a women out hunting with him, using flint lock guns, wearing buckskins that he made for her. Then later she can help him pull a motor out of this truck. He don't even care if she can cook. I think he has always been pretty happy with his choices. 

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I can't lay back and watch TV, and have dinner served me all the time, lol!

I didn't have cooking lessons. Both of my parents worked and when we came home from school, I'd have a list of things to do to get ready for supper. It was mostly by doing that I learned.

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RedheadRiter said ...
I learned to cook after I moved away from home. Mom was always busy trying to get it done and we didn't really have cooking lessons. As I got older, we did spend more time talking about it. When I got married, I went crazy in the kitchen and I discovered that I totally love cooking.

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Oh, no! Is that what the man in your life does?

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Ugochi said ...
I can't lay back and watch TV, and have dinner served me all the time, lol!

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THAT is truly THE LIFE!  If that is your man, I think he needs a little "retraining" LOL

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Ugochi said ...
I can't lay back and watch TV, and have dinner served me all the time, lol!

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Get rid of the television!